A three-day Embodied Discovery weekend for couples, at AVALON.

It's half past ten.

The kids are asleep, the wine is finished, you're lying next to each other in bed.
Something's in the air. You both feel it.

Is something expected of me now?

You turn over. "I'm just so tired."
A moment later, from the other side, a little too lightly: "Well, sleep tight."

You love each other. That's not the problem. Somewhere along the way you lost each other in bed, and neither of you knows exactly when.

What happened to us? How did we end up here?

Maybe the answer is simpler than you think. You each speak your own erotic language. And a language can be learned.

Rediscovering each other, with the eyes you had then and the depth you have now. In three days you learn to speak each other's erotic language, and you feel seen and desired again.

Discover your language

Maybe this sounds familiar

You have a good thing together. Work that matters, friends, travel, good food. A life you're proud of.

And yet.

One of you longs for slowness, touch and atmosphere. The other for intensity, for something more thrilling. You've tried. A weekend away. Talking about it. Toys. A workshop, a temple night, a tantra program.

Sometimes it worked for a while, until the wish turned into a goal again. What you once named as something you enjoyed suddenly had to happen, and everything moved back into your head.

And at night, when it's quiet, the questions come that you don't ask out loud.

  • Am I really good enough for you?
  • Do I still turn you on?
  • Can we still rediscover each other?

It really can be different. You each speak your own erotic language, and no one ever taught you how to understand the other's.

When it becomes ordinary

The tricky part: it becomes normal.

In a busy life you don't even notice anymore. You work, you have a lovely social life, you take care of everything for the family. It's a good life. But somewhere, something is nagging.

Until you watch a film with a beautiful, intimate scene, and suddenly feel how much you miss it.

 

What doesn't get attention slowly fades. The spark. The curiosity about each other. The feeling that you matter. And one day you find yourselves at a crossroads, wondering how you got there.

Discover what else there is

What this weekend is

Embodied Erotic Framework is a three-day weekend where you discover together what turns each of you on.

We work with Jaiya's five Erotic Blueprints: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky and Shapeshifter. Five ways a body finds its way into arousal, desire and pleasure. Everyone has their own mix. Once you know yours and your partner's, something falls into place.

What this weekend is not:

It's not therapy. Pleasure is our starting point, and depth comes with it. The shadow gets a place too, and whatever surfaces along the way is welcome.

It's not a promise that everything will fall into place on its own afterward. It's a beginning, with everything you need to keep exploring and experimenting at home.

And it's not an afternoon about five types. Three days gives you the time to really sink into it: the pitfalls, the shadow, and experiencing each blueprint in your own body.

What changes?

You know which blueprints you have, and which ones your partner has. You understand each other again.

You dare to say what you desire, and to ask what the other needs. You dare to play in your partner's language, even when it isn't yours. And what has been in the way for so long, the shame, the idea that it's supposed to be a certain way, the pressure to perform, loses its grip. What you desire is allowed to be there. It's simply your language.

The five blueprints

Five languages of desire. Everyone speaks their own mix.

Energetic

You're turned on by tension, anticipation and connection. 

Sensual

You experience intimacy with all your senses. 

Sexual

You love it direct and physical.

Kinky

You're moved by what feels exciting or taboo to you.

Shapeshifter

You speak several languages. You long for variety.

How we work

It starts with slowing down. If you don't slow down, you can't look, you can't feel, and you can't read the other.

So first you learn to look again, at your own body and at your partner's. When does it open? When does it freeze?

Every blueprint gets equal space, and you experience every blueprint, through exercises and play. With each blueprint we also look at the shadow side, lightly and without judgment. Seeing a shadow is an invitation to be curious.

And you get a mirror from the outside. Together you sometimes get stuck in patterns you can't see from the inside. We show you what we see, honestly and with compassion.

This is what the weekend looks like

Friday, [time] to [time]. We open the weekend. You get to know the group and the five blueprints, discover which languages you think you speak, and we take a look at which phase of intimacy you're in.

Saturday, [time] to [time]. A full day where we bring the blueprints to life one by one, with exercises, play and room to reflect. With lunch, a shared dinner and an evening program afterwards.

Sunday, [time] to [time]. We round off the blueprints and you play in each other's language. Then you head home with your own plan.

What you get

A first taste, beforehand

Handouts to build some anticipation and spark your curiosity. And to see where you stand right now, so you walk in well prepared.

Three days together

From Friday through Sunday, with an evening program on Saturday too.

Food and drinks, prepared with care

Lunch, a shared dinner on Saturday, and lovely bites and drinks in between. Prepared with care, just like this whole weekend, in the homey, luxurious atmosphere of AVALON.

If you like, stay at the B&B

A private room, two nights, breakfast included. There are five rooms.

Your own plan

To take home with you, for the weeks that follow.

Integration and inspiration

That doesn't stop when you leave. For a few weeks you'll receive emails that help you keep exploring and deepening.

Embodied Erotic Framework
Yes, we want to learn each other's language

Who we are


We are Miss V. and Mila.

Miss V. has worked with intimacy for years, with seventeen years of experience in the kink world. She's known for creating a safe space, where there's room for everyone's needs and people can explore intimacy at their own pace. And yet she too, at this point in her life, is taking a fresh look at her own forms of intimacy, and rediscovering them. That's part of it. What you desire moves with your life. When she came across the Erotic Blueprints, something fell into place. Here was a way to look at intimacy more broadly, for herself and for the people she works with.

 

Mila comes from cognitive trauma therapy and energetic bodywork. She saw how few people know the blueprints, and how few know how to apply them. Her wish: a playful way in, with depth and safety woven through it.

Together we do what we love most: play, and create a safe space for it. We want to take away taboos. We want people to feel seen and dare to take up space. And to go home with a smile.

 

"An incredible host: made ourselves at ease when we were tense, sensed our moods and presence and guided us through the beginning of an exploration, which we think has just only begun."

Een koppel

"Miss V. is a true expert and can tell you everything and let you experience it in a really relaxed, safe way."

Esther

"From the very first moment I felt at ease. Mila listens closely, senses what's going on and asks exactly the right questions. She doesn't just help you understand patterns, but above all to really feel them and break through them."

Vince

"She knows exactly how to get to the heart of what you need, find the right words and hold up a loving mirror."

Inge

"It felt familiar and safe, which allowed me to really open up."

Megan
We're in

Who this is for

For couples who love each other, and sometimes lose each other in bed. Who have been together for years and are far from done discovering. Who are curious about what moves the other, and willing to look at themselves too.

Maybe things are a little stuck. Maybe things are fine, but you know there's more.

Both are welcome.
Who this is not for

For couples who have actually already decided it's over.

For anyone hoping we'll fix it for you. We're good, but we're not that good. 😉

For anyone who mainly wants to prove the other is doing it wrong.

And for anyone carrying a lot of unprocessed trauma who has never worked on it. Then you deserve a different kind of support first.

Why now

It won't change on its own, and that's not a reproach. That's simply what happens to whatever gets no attention in a busy life.

You're not reading this by accident. A beautiful moment to choose, together, for what more there is between you.

Choose each other

Frequently asked questions

Investment

€1,250 per couple, including two nights in a private room with breakfast.
€950 per couple without overnight stay.
All prices include VAT.

We work with a maximum of eight couples, so every couple gets real attention.

For that you get three days just for the two of you, food and drinks prepared with care, a first taste beforehand, and integration and inspiration that carry on long after you're back home.

Sign up, from €950 per couple

If you want to go deeper after the weekend, you can later book a deep-dive day per blueprint.

In closing

There's nothing wrong with you. You speak a different language.

Come learn that language together.

Xo Miss V. and Mila

Embodied Erotic Framework