Is Scene & Unseen suitable for BDSM beginners?

Yes, if you are 25 or over, and if you're curious and come to learn. Seeing a full scene before you start playing yourself can be the best start there is.

When does Scene & Unseen take place?

A new edition every three months. You'll find the date of the next one on Hipsy, where you book your seat. The scene starts at 13.00 and the day ends at 18.00, so keep the afternoon free.

What time does the door close?

The scene starts at 13.00 and the door closes. It stays closed, without exception, so the room can stay a safe and private bubble.

What language is Scene & Unseen in?

Scene & Unseen is bilingual. The scene is in Dutch, unless my play partner speaks English. The welcome, the debrief and the apéritif work in both, so speak and ask in whichever you prefer. And language isn't a barrier when you're looking at art.

How much does a ticket cost?

Early bird, for the first six seats: single €215, couple €400. Regular: single €245, couple €450. Your ticket includes the scene, the debrief and Q&A, and the luxurious apéritif.

Is there a dress code?

Come as you are. No kink outfits.

Scene & Unseen

Q: What is Scene & Unseen?

Scene & Unseen is a live BDSM event at Avalon, MissV's private studio near Haarlem in the Netherlands. You watch a full scene unfold, and afterwards we talk through everything that happened underneath it: the intentions, the choices and the mistakes.

Q: Is Scene & Unseen a live sex show?

No. Explicit moments can happen, because the scene is unscripted and everything is allowed to be there. It's okay if it touches you, even when you find it arousing. But you come to learn and to go deeper, not to perv. Connection is the point.

Q: Do I have to participate?

No, you never have to. You come to watch, to reflect and to ask. If I ever find it interesting or fun to involve the room in some way, we'll say so before the scene starts and you can let us know whether you'd be open to it. We'll probably use small indicators for that, a sign or a bracelet of some kind, so it's always clear and always your choice.

Q: What if the scene triggers something in me?

Watching a real kinky or BDSM scene can touch old pain or trigger something, and for some people it will chafe somewhere. That's okay, and if you're not sure you're ready, the not knowing is usually where the curiosity lives. The scene can include impact play, intense emotion and explicit moments. Nobody knows in advance what will unfold, me included. You can step out of the room at any moment, and there is someone to support you, during the scene and after. Emotions are welcome in the debrief too, but please leave judgement at the door. Curiosity and questions are very welcome. I bring seventeen years in kink and my work as a kink intimacy coach and trauma informed hypnotherapist into the space. If you have doubts, do reach out to me at mailmissv@gmail.com or use the contact form on this website.

Q: Can I film or take photos?

No. Absolutely not. There may be a discreet camera of my own, used only for MissV promotional content, and guests will never be recognizable. Everyone's privacy comes first. Always. This is a life moment, not content, and it only exists in that room, on that day.

Q: Where does Scene & Unseen take place?

Avalon, my private studio near Haarlem. The exact address stays private and is shared with you after booking.

Watch a full, unscripted scene unfold live, then hear everything that was happening underneath it, so you finally see how real depth in play is built.

You know how you play. In your bedroom. In a hotel room. Behind a door that stays closed.

What you don't know is how anyone else does it. Not really.

You've seen the kinky moments on Netflix that reveal exactly nothing. A whip, a blindfold, some sex, cut to black. You've heard the stories in podcasts and books and filled in the rest yourself. Maybe you once caught a show at a party. Ten minutes, beautiful, and then it was over. But you never get... the whole story.

Are we doing this right? How do other people even begin?

Scene & Unseen is a live, unscripted* scene, played in full, in front of sixteen guests. Followed by the part nobody ever shows you: what was really happening.

TAKE YOUR SEAT · FROM €215 (FIRST 6 SEATS)

in the back of your mind

Where do I find inspiration? How do I start? What do I do when I suddenly don't know what to do anymore? What if the whole scene blows up in my face?

So you go looking. A new toy. A new technique. A video of someone doing it “properly.”It helps. A little.

Until it doesn't

Because it was never just about technique.

When two people move with each other in full attention, so much no longer needs to be learned. You already know how to be intimate. You already know how to move. As long as you're truly attuned to each other.

It's about how a scene is built

How you open the first layers in someone, so you can truly go deep.
How you play with emotion
how tension rises and breaks.
How you bring someone to the core of their need, within their role. And what the exchange looks like when the one leading plays from their core too.

That's not something a whip on a screen can teach you.

same door same few rituals

So you keep playing the handful of things that once worked. You keep wondering if there's more. And you keep answering that question alone, behind that closed door.

Nothing wrong with that.
It's just smaller than it could be.

COME SEE WHAT'S POSSIBLE

Not a show.
A life moment.

Let's be clear about what this isn't.

It isn't a sex show. Explicit moments can happen, because the scene is unscripted* and everything is allowed to be there.

It's okay if it touches you, even when you find it arousing or sexy.

But you don't come here to perv. You come to learn and to go deeper.

You don't participate. You watch.

And it isn't a skills class. Nobody will walk you through the perfect flogger swing.

a real moment, witnessed by you. People connecting through everything kink has to offer. Discipline. Humor. ritual. Impact. Intimacy and more.

Sometimes it's art. Sometimes it's theater. Sometimes it's minimal and simple. Always real, because it comes from my world and from whatever unfolds when everything is allowed to be there.

Tears, snot and running mascara. The struggle. That deep will. The moment it cuts through to the core, right where it matters.

And laughter too, because play doesn't have to be deadly serious to be deep.

No two editions are alike. And a scene might not go as planned, take a different turn, or end sooner than expected. Whether you'll notice... we'll find out together.

the second act

Recently I met someone who has been following me for more than ten years. Ten years. She saw more then half of my journey, back when I still switched too. Somewhere along the way you end up on a pedestal.

And from up there it looks as if I know everything. As if I rarely get it wrong. As if I could never feel unsure inside a scene, never freeze for a second, never wobble.

That's exactly why there's a second act.

The scene ends. We sit down together. The revealing starts.

What I intended. Which choices I made, and why. What I did to open the first layers. Where I misread it, and where I only seemed to. Where the scene changed course, and why. How I bend with what happens, and what that says about an apparent balance of power. Why I ended when I did.

Then you get to hold it up against what you saw. Did it match? What did you miss? What did you see that I didn't?

This is where watching turns into learning. Where your questions get real answers. Where one new angle can change the way you play for good.

REVEAL EVERYTHING TO ME

the day:

1 event,

3 movements

First · 2 to 2.5 hrs

The Scene

Live, unscripted* play. Sometimes shorter, sometimes a little longer.

A scene isn't done when the plan is done. It's done when my partner(s) arrive(s) at a place that tells me it's enough, or when it has come full circle.

then · 1 to 1.5 hrs

The Unseen

Debrief and open Q&A.

I will reveal what went different, my doubts, thoughts and choices.

Ask anything.

after

The After

A luxurious apéritif, with drinks and refined bites.

Time to meet the others, and to ask me that one question you didn't want to ask in front of the room.

limited seats · intimate setting

Avalon · my private Intimacy Atelier · near Haarlem

A new edition every 3 months

Who I play with stays a surprise. It might be the same partner as last time, someone new, or more than one.

Scene & Unseen is a concept born from two observations over the past years.

The first came from the workshops. I used to bring a submissive with me. Afterwards, people told me that watching that was one of the most valuable parts of their day: a power dynamic running quietly through an "ordinary" afternoon.

The second came from the stage. Maybe you've seen me perform at Wasteland, SPNKD, The Rubber Bunch or Peacock Garden. Every performance had to serve something. I wanted people to see that a whip doesn't always have to hurt. That impact play can be beautiful, and that it connects. That play is a form of communication. That a scene can be art.

And art is allowed to get under your skin. It can stir doubt, invite questions, and still become whatever it needs to be for you. Your own interpretation, maybe conscious, or maybe from somewhere underneath.

What if we can find love and connection exactly where it collides with how we were raised? Where it rubs against what's socially acceptable, or touches our shame and our shadow. What if watching doesn't just show you something, but quietly opens something in you too?

I could never fit that into twenty minutes. And still, even in twenty minutes, people would come to me afterwards and say: if it can also be this, then I'd like to experience it myself.

So maybe that's it. Maybe I just want to make art. The art of living, of intimacy, freedom, expression and connection through everything. Of seeing each other when the masks come off. And they will... come off.

Is this your day?

Scene & Unseen is for you if you already play and want to go deeper.
If you're curious and want to see what it can really look like.
If you come with passion, with questions, and with a genuine wish to learn. On your own, or together.

This is not for you if

You if you're hoping for a sx show.
If you're hoping to join in.
If you want a step by step tutorial with a handout.

And if your hand reaches for your phone at the sight of a flogger: it stays in your bag. All day.

"So grateful that I got to meet you, and everyone else who takes this seriously and wants to live it fully. Such beautiful harmony. The genuine love flowing through it all, and the sadistic side too. The dark side. It feels so good once you embrace it. And then you realise it isn't really that dark at all.

Arv.

A journey inwards so pure, so liberating, it changed me forever."

Lisa

"I was very emotional and deeply happy to feel at the right place and safe with the dynamic you created with us."

SARAH

"Thank you for the atmosphere you created and space you held, for your openness, honesty and playfulness.".

Jo-Ann

Relaxed setting, great atmosphere, well guided (of course 😉). Had a fun day with space for everyone in a safe environment. Highly recommended!

Miss J.

She was sharp, direct, and absolutely professional. Integrity radiated from her.

Roel

Tickets, Accommodation & Pricing

Your seat

Early bird —
(first six seats)

Single €215 · Couple €400

Regular

Single €245 · Couple €450

Includes the scene, the debrief and Q&A, and the luxurious apéritif.

PLEASE ARRIVE 30 MIN. (12.30) IN ADVANCE TO CREATE OUR PRIVATE BUBBLE AND SAFE SPACE.

Good to know

Scene starts: 13.00-18.00 · 4 to 5 hours, keep the afternoon free

Where: Avalon, my private Intimacy Atelier near Haarlem. The exact address stays private and is shared with you after booking.

Who. Fourteen seats, for guests aged 25 and over.

How. You book through Hipsy and fill in a short form: who you are, your experience, and why you'd like to come.

I WANT TO SEE THIS

You can't learn depth from a highlight reel

You learn it by seeing the whole arc. And then hearing what was underneath.

Fourteen seats. The first six at early bird price. The next edition is three months away, and it won't be this one.

Looking forward to share space with you!

listen to the pull

TAKE ME INSIDE

Still Got Questions?

WHAT IS SCENE & UNSEEN?

IS SCENE & UNSEEN A LIVE SX SHOW?

DO I HAVE TO PARTICIPATE?

IS SCENE & UNSEEN SUITABLE FOR BEGINNERS?

WHAT IF THE SCENE TRIGGERS SOMETHING IN ME?

CAN I FILM OR TAKE PHOTOS?

WHATS THE SPOKEN LANGUAGE?

LAST food for thought

Everyone sees the scene. Almost nobody sees what's underneath.

Come see the unseen.